AITA for being so strict with my husband? - November 2023 Babies | Forums | What to Expect (2024)

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How do I ask my husband for more help with my baby? ›

Try to find a time when you're both feeling calm, so you can have a chat without things getting too heated. As you talk, think about what is bothering you the most and how you want to spend your time. When a new baby arrives, it's common for one partner's domestic workload to increase more than the other's.

Let them own it

Encourage your partner to discover their own little rituals, their own special routines with the baby, and then let them really own it. It doesn't matter if it's the littlest of things, it's still helpful, and it's still something special between just them two.

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The reality is, there is no set number of hours that your husband should be helping with the baby. But he definitely should be doing his fair share. Dads can help with diaper changes, tummy time, baths, bottle prep, and more.

Instead of attacking, issue an invitation to your partner. You could say something like, “I'm really struggling right now — could we have a quick conversation about it?” Asking for permission grants your partner a sense of autonomy, which makes them more willing to engage. Then, ask for whatever it is you need.

Delegate Tasks

This requires communication so he knows what to expect, and possibly problem-solving for how he will get the chores done. And when your partner does make a change, always acknowledge, appreciate, and praise it (especially if he may feel that he was criticized in the past).

How to get a partner more involved in parenting? ›

Schedule daddy dates. Schedule Dad for one “daddy date” with each child each month. If you have several children, he can do two or three of these dates in one evening. Let kids pick where they want to go within certain parameters and give your husband the insight of spending an hour or so with just one child.